Celebrations and Deliberations

Hey there! I have been so conflicted lately because I have had so much to say and I couldn't possibly narrow things down and choose my thoughts and words carefully. Nah, that would be too much like right. Instead, I chose to be silent until I felt as if I had a more clear picture of what I wanted to blog about. So, here goes...

Celebrations: I'm definitely one who celebrates the triumphs and I try to be the kind of person who celebrates in the midst of my trials. My first triumph was making it to my 1 month natural-verssary. It doesn't sound like a big deal, but for me, it was. If you want to know how you REALLY feel about yourself, cut your hair off and fore go the perm. I learned that I do have a great amount of self love, but I wouldn't be honest with you or myself if I made it appear that there weren't moments I just stared in the mirror and had to remind myself about the things I liked about my face. Through good and bad hair days, perfect curls and kinks or the reality of shrinkage, I am loving this journey and how cutting my permed hair was just one of the visual signs of the transformation that I'm making on the inside and out.

Deliberations: This brings me to my deliberations, lol. I'm always thinking about love and romance. As I'm making changes and growing, I am reminded that everyone isn't sharing my experience. It's true, everyone can't go with you on your journey to your destiny. In order to make room for the life that I'm working for, I may have to leave some ideas and people behind. I've always been the type to want what I want, when I want it & if I can't have it, then I'd rather not have anything at all. Can I keep this mindset and expect to have "it all"? I definitely don't want to raise my child to have a bratty mentality. I do want her to know that it's okay to dream big, as long as you are willing to work to obtain what you want and maintain it once it's yours. That's who I am and why I am able to keep forging ahead despite obstacles. It's said that only the strong survive. I agree, but it's when the face of adversity is drop-kicking you in the throat, that you build your strength and courage. That's when I remember that I will not only continue to dream; I'm going to make it happen. No, it's not bratty-ness at all, I'm simply determined.

The words you speak,type, & text...

There is power in the tongue. What many never consider, is much like the blood  that courses through our veins, those thoughts and ideals travel straight to the tips of our fingers and become the proclamations we type and text. We send fabulous words of wisdom and quotes, ending them with smiley faces and "Lol (s)". We make professions of love and close with hugs and kisses in a plethora of x's and o's. But, what of the lies that we tell? When is it okay to lie? I, myself, believe that it's much better to tell the truth. Who has time to memorize the lie, or the events leading up to the lie? We know it comes back. What man or woman is so important that they are worthy of the energy that it takes to lie? I think in relationships, men and women sometimes think it's better to tell a lie so that their significant other is not hurt, or feels special. Never thinking of the consequence or possible damage, he or she finds instead, that it's a quick fix to a small situation. Allow me to help click the switch. A lie is just that and when one tells it, it takes away from your positive characteristics that make you attractive. No one wants to be considered a "liar" by friends, family, and significant others. There's a dynamic way to avoid this. It's something everyone can do. Choose to tell the truth AND start with yourself. You will be sure to find a glow of peace of mind shining out from within, and that is way more attractive than the nervous energy of a liar.




Azure Skies

Welcome!

So this is my very first post! I'm so excited and I'm asking for your patience as I learn how to convey my thoughts and ideas in a way that sparks your thoughts and emotions. This morning, I had the pleasure of listening to my favorite morning crew as they interviewed Tyrese. He said something that made sense. Loosely quoted, Tyrese stated that, we have these lil boys singing about good sex, how can  you sing about good sex when you've never had it?  As a self proclaimed "Hopeful Romantic", that was a mouthful! How can you expect to touch the hearts and souls of many women and men, when you are oblivious to what making love is and how to do it? When done properly, making love can change settings. Couples can go from heated arguments to heated expressions of love. Life can be created, egos can be mended or affirmed, apologies can be given and received and broken marriages can be saved. While I don't believe that I'm old; I realize that I am grown. I wish that these young artists and listeners knew what it was to inspire romance. If only they would take the time to hold hands, slowly lead into kisses and exchange glances.  How about not rushing to get momentary grattification, foolishly thinking love was just made? They might find that they are inspired to write songs that equal poetry and speak to the souls of many. These teens and young adults might find that making love does not begin and end in the bedroom. It begins in the first glance and the anticipation. 

Azure Skies